Sex is Not Love

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If Sex Doesn't Prove Love, Why is Cheating a Problem?

Two people in a relationship, an exclusive relationship such as marriage or life-partnership, who love each other, which include having secrets between the two of them, things never shared with outsiders, are the ones allowed to have sexual intercourse freely. They also have this exclusive activity, namely sex that involves only them to only pleasure one another, which includes their most personal and private body parts, the genitals. Normal people keep this exclusive activity, a sacred activity for having the power to create life, private and call it having moral values. Not everyone wants to expose their genitals publicly or want to put their sexual acts on display, which is very good, since random sex and casual sex achieve just that—removing the sacredness of the act. Porn and other types of X-rated videos, pictures or shows have the tendency of smuggling with the brain and contaminate thought patterns.

Keeping sex with one's life-partner private, is the normal thing to do and it is also normal to be monogamous. Monogamy can also be defined as a sexual secret, besides sexual exclusivity; the secret between two people in a life-partnership. If these two people wanted others to know how they perform in bed, it wouldn't be a good idea to be in any type of relationship. Sex is a private matter, which comes after love was grown to completion—to full capacity.

This secret is violated when one of the two in the relationship, the relationship referring to nothing other than a contract, of exclusivity and keeping secrets, the contract referring to it being verbally or signed. During this type of relationship or partnership, if sex without consent is offered to a third party, it is a personal violation. This we call betrayal. Sexual betrayal is the worst form of betrayal, because it brings unfair competition into a relationship and causes totally unnatural feelings within the victim that sometimes last for years.

Anybody, who has ever been betrayed in a non-sexual way, knows how mortifying it is. Sexual betrayal is 100 times worse when a person is in a sexual relationship where you truly love the perpetrator.

Business-owners, who've taken apprentices and firms, made up of people, that took interns, taught them a great deal, even sometimes taken them from rags to riches, might deny this, but it is true that they are devastated when someone leaves, especially if they were poached by a third party, willing to be in breach of contract. And to top it, others say it's not personal. Crap! If an intern or apprentice was babied, it is very personal!! This is what being human is all about.

For all the above reasons, a person never ever cheats in any way if you want others to keep on loving you, respect you and even admire you. Nobody likes cheaters, as they are the world's traitors and if they can cheat sexually, you don't want them as business-partners or life-partners, because they cannot be trusted. The best way to erase love instantly, is by cheating!

Sex and Love Have Nothing in Common

It is widely proclaimed and wrongfully accepted as a fact that sex and love basically is the same thing. Sex and love have in actual fact very little if anything in common. Anyone can at any point have sex with another person without having any feelings for that person. Love is not required as criteria for engaging in sexual intercourse.

Saying that one is “making love” when having sex is also incorrect. This, however, doesn't mean sex is not sacred and that it justifies having sex casually and/or randomly. Sex is very sacred, mainly because it brings about life, but there are other very important factors causing sex to be sacred that will be discussed at another time. Suffice it to say that sex was sacred enough to instate marriage as protection thereof.

Sex and love are governed by totally different parts of the soul. The entry point for sexual intercourse, giving access to the core of the soul, is at the energy exit point of a soul’s core. Thus, bringing the energy level that involves sex down to a very low level. Love is on a high level with high vibrations and comes from the heart of the soul—central part of one’s soul’s core. Sex, on the other hand, is on a very low level with low vibrations; hence they cannot be related to each other.

Sex was intended for procreation and not only for physical pleasure.

When humans came into existence, sex had to be pleasurable, otherwise no-one would have wanted to procreate. Can you imagine?

People were supposed to engage in sexual activity ethically, but now-a-days it is used as an activity to connect with people, to feel good, to make another feel good, to reach out, as payback, as a pass-time activity, to search for ... and many more reasons other than for the intention it is there.

Sex is Commonly Mistaken for Love

Love is a divine emotion! Sex is a physical feeling! We don't display our love toward another with sex, as there is no way a person can make sex soooo good that it would cause someone to fall in love, love a person or love a person more. Sex also doesn't leave a lasting memory, but love does.